I used to feel so much stress about cooking holiday meals. And I don't have just one holiday season in my house. My husband and children are Muslim so we have two sets of holidays. That's a lot of holiday cooking.
I used to get migraines because I got so stressed out about having it all be right. And....whew. I was no fun. But most of all, I didn't let myself enjoy the process, even the kinks.
Because really when loved ones are gathered who cares what happens? It's not about it being perfect or even ideal. It's about sharing time and connection. It's about bringing into focus what we value most: each other.
Sooooo in that spirit, let us be loving to ourselves, to create space for connection and to create ease. It feels great saying that, and I'm so grateful you are saying it with me.
One of the most loving things I do for myself in anticipation of a holiday meal is that I don't think of holiday meals as particularly special. I think of them as a regular meal with more people I love in attendance. This frees up any energy I might have wrapped up in pleasing others or being perfect or making it so big in my head that it feels overwhelming.
My mantra goes something like this: "I make dinner every night. This is just a bigger dinner. I roast a chicken once a week. This is just a really big chicken."
Remember our 4 ways to create space for connection, and create ease for holiday meals.
In my next post we'll talk about guests and how to nurture each one a little bit, even the ones who come with intimidating diet expectations. I'm giving away my Holiday Recipe Collection Nov 18th!
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