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One of the biggest and most unnoticed factors that affect us in our kitchens are our feelings. Often we think its the decisions we make about food such as, should I buy the organic onions? or should I spend the extra money to get grass fed beef? Should I try to get my family to eat this meal I think they may not like?
We think these are the things that cause our mental anguish in the kitchen but I have a theory that these are just ways to distract ourselves from what we are really feeling.
I have an exercise for you. Visualize yourself standing in front of your refrigerator with the door open peering inside. How do you feel? What or who jumps to mind? Who or what has been an unconscious part of this equation?
Visualize yourself standing at your stove preparing a meal. How do you feel?
Visualize yourself shopping for groceries or making a grocery list. What feelings emerge?
I'm willing to bet that the feelings you have are about your relationships past or present with family members, friends, or with yourself.
I'm even willing to bet that you spend a lot of mental and emotional energy in the kitchen feeling lots of unhappy feelings.
What if instead you felt joy? What if you felt bursts of creative energy? What if you felt enlivened and even excitement?
I propose that we begin a new kind of meal preparation. I propose that our meal preparation start and end with loving ourselves by honoring our needs and giving ourselves the skills to feel free and creative with food.
I offer up this exercise in support of growth:
Every time you enter the kitchen this week repeat these words. "All parts of me matter. I am powerful and creative in this kitchen." Or any words that feel organic to your person.
Perhaps you repeat them when you feel like one part of you doesn't matter. .
Perhaps you repeat them when you feel good.
Perhaps you repeat them when you are overwhelmed.
Feel them deeply. Let them anchor you anew in this relationship you have to meal preparation, planning and sharing.
And let me know how you feel different. Let me know if it changes something or shifts your relationship to your kitchen/meal preparation/meal planning/meal sharing in some way.
Welcome! I'm Janelle. This is a place of inspiration about real everyday food life. I want to know how I can serve you!
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